Since my dad's passing it seems like I sit and think about things.
Just little things.
Like how peaceful my dad was up to the final moment.
He kind of just snuck out on us.
I am sure just the way he wanted it.
How I miss him so but I don't want things back the way they were.
Come to find out we had just the right amount of time.
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It's wonderful that you can be at peace with your Dad's passing. It's another testament to the wonderful life he led and shared with you.
Cyndi & Stumpy @ RVly Ever After
I think about that too - if I could have them back ten years before it would be wonderful. sandie
I think my mother has outlived her quality of life. Trust me. That is very depressing too. I feel conflicted between wanting her here and wanting her at peace. Death is difficult and so is life.
I think when we are close to the end, we all know when the time is right for going. My own mother told me she was ready, and she passed in my arms. To this day I like to believe that I was witness to her soul leaving her body. I am at peace with her passing on to a better place, though I miss her terribly. The ache hurts less but memories become stronger with time. Hugs. ~Ames
Have been thinking of you since your Dad passed. Hope your Mom and sisters are doing as well as you. You're an amazing person, and I'm sure that got passed down through your Dad's genes!
With the death of a loved one, we learn so much about ourselves and our understanding of life and death. Death is just one more step in our eternity. However, it does leave those of still here feeling lonely at times but with wonderful memories.
Thinking of you, hope you are healing.
You sound at peace.
My Mom's last four months were Our best four months.
It is oh so sad when they have to stay in bodies that are betraying them longer than they want. I remember my Mom praying for God to take her. I am so glad you Dad was peaceful, for him and for you and your family. Thinking of you often, wishing you well.
I think of you often. Love, prayers, & hugs.
no words..just a ~~hug~~
So glad you are feeling peaceful and that the timing was right. My mom passed 6 months ago yesterday and I am so thankful that I have no regrets about our relationship and the way I honored her in recent years.
I love your adorable little trailer gems!
When my grandma died in '06, a part of me died too. My mother and I don't have any problems, but my Grandma was more of a mother to me than my mother ever has been. We talked on the phone all the time. I would take her places and make jokes about dragging her with a rope because she was so slow on her walker. (When I see someone helping someone else on a walker now, to this day, I get a lump in my throat.)
When she died, I remember all of the love at the funeral. I stood and cried until Doug drug me away from her casket just before it was closed that final time. But she wasn't there- she was already gone. It was just her shell.
Her phone number is still in my cell phone. I can't delete it.
You sound good. You sound peaceful. It takes time. Allow yourself the luxury of the time it takes to get through this.
Celebrate our birthdays together? We are on! xo, Cheryl
I know the feeling. I would love to HAVE my own Dad back but wouldn't WISH him back for the world. How wonderful that you enjoyed all the years you did with him. xo Diana
Dad's life and death was on his own terms. I give him huge bonus points for knowing it was his time to go.
Jo's comment pretty much says what I think ~ I wish my mother would just let go...it's way past time.
Been thinking about you and hoping you are running and getting back to life.
The selfish part of me, wishes my parents were still here. The realistic part of me, knows what a struggle their last few years were and wouldn't want to see them go through that again. They are at peace and no longer in pain. I can live with that.
Blessings, thoughts and prayers.
Lovely post. *hugs* ♥
Just snuck out on you, did he? Yeah; I can see that.
Blessings and lots of hugs. Bear hugs, even (but gentle ones).
What a gift he gave you all as he went peacefully into the night. You are so fortunate to have had such a great father and now the good memories. You seem to have that same kind of inner strength your father had Sheryl. Peace, Linda
It's good that you are at peace with this. How wonderful that he slipped away in he manner that he did, surrounded with love. It just makes one feel calmer & more at peace with themselves & their relationship with their loved ones. I do not like the "D" word, I prefer to use passing as well as I still feel the presence of loved ones that have gone to the other side...funny, I feel my Dad around me the most. {{Hugs}}
Sounds like he did it on his own terms...what better way.
:)
I dread the days ahead when I will have to face these kind of days. Thank you for showing me you can survive and come out the other side grateful and at peace.
What a wonderful thought ... being here on this earth exactly the right amount of time.
It is nice you can be reflective about your dad's passing. You sound like you're in a good place and at peace. Take care of yourself.
Sending positive thoughts your way.
I've been traveling for over a week and am just back to reading blogs... so glad to have read this post ;)
I hear joy in your words, joy that only someone who has peace in their heart can have.
Reminds me of the song by the Byrds, "Turn,Turn, Turn" adapted from Ecclesiates 3
"To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time for every purpose under heaven..."
God's timing is always perfect.
Blessings,
Kathy
Odd the thoughts that go through our head after a great loss. Uncertain of our feelings, yet logic comes through. Logic and loss - certain that has made for interesting discussions.
Hope you are doing okay.
You have so many people here who really care about you.
When the end came for my dad I was e-mailing a blogger that became my savor that night. He sent me his phone number and we talked until I saw dad breath his last and a faint smile touched his lips. I knew he was finally at piece. Dad told me he was ready he, lived a full and rich life, and not to be sad. That was a hard one to promise. I still miss him, but I know he was no longer happy with his life.
Jim will always be the unmet hero in my life he is My very Special Friend.
Love to you and your family.
Such a heartfelt post.. It's so nice that you are at peace!!
Hugs, Linda
Oh this is such a wise post. I am so happy (if I can say that) that your Dad left you peacefully My Dad did the same and I think your words "We had just the right amount of time." is exactly how I feel.
I know I carry my Dad with me everyday every time I see a hawk I know he is telling me he is fine and happy and soaring free loving me. I do miss him but I know he is in a great place and someday we will be together. I love you last line. Take care my friend. HUG B
Hi!!, Never knew u were there on my blog!
Our loved ones that have passed, are just on the other side. I can feel them sometimes. Sure, i miss them, but like most, it was their time to go. My Mom and Dad, i mean.
I don't understand what u said about the pop up window for comments, thot it was easy on mine. U don't have to do the word thing, just hit publish.
What a nice way to reflect......
I hope that as you face the holidays without him you will be able to find him everywhere, smiling and knowing that you are happy.
You continue in my prayers.
I have a big hole in my heart this time of year, your dad will be there with you though. You're in my thoughts and prayers...
I am glad all is claming down for you... you left us with some good thoughts..
hugs
Don't know how else to get in touch as your comments come through with a no-reply. Would love to meet next week. Send a note to geogypsy2 @ gmail com
Sheryl, may you have a blessed Thanksgiving and I am so sorry to hear about your Dad...I'm sure he is greatly missed. Love to you and yours at this time and throughout the coming year.
Oh drat. I've been unable to get on your blog and now I read this.
I am so so sorry.
What a fight he put up!
What a wonderful man he was.
Belated sympathies and hugs coming your way.
Hugs and peace.
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